What Real Men of God Do #3

Real Men of God know when to lead….


and when to follow


Too often do men get these two things wrong. Our world says that you are either a leader or a follower, but this isn’t what the Lord says.

We are both.

Christ is the perfect example of how we all should live and is the perfect example of what a Real Man of God looks like. He came for his bride, took up a leadership role in doing so, and yet followed the will of His father.

In society today, and especially in the Christian community, we find men who love Jesus, talk about Him, and even serve Him, but they do not know Him as they should. These men are “respected at the city gates (proverbs)” and admired for their knowledge of scripture, but still strive to honor those around them, especially the guardians of wisdom. Men forget that women were wired to be loved and cherished, so if they are denied those things, it becomes a struggle for them to hold on to their value in Christ. While Godly women know that they are loved by Christ and that they have value in the Father, if it is not reinforced by their brothers and sisters in Christ, then it becomes difficult for these same women of God to trust the Men of God around them.

This should not be so.

Here’s how we fix this:

Men tend to want to lead and get out in front of Christ, but will follow a woman’s lead in relationships rather than honoring her by stepping up into the role that was designed for men. Women are having to step up and not only do all the things they are tasked with, but also  take on responsibilities that men have shirked over the years. The appropriate hashtag for this would be: #backwards

So here are two scriptures, one for how to follow Christ and another important verse on how to lead as men.

Ephesians 4:17-20

“17 Now this I say and testify in the Lord, that you must no longer walk as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their minds. 18 They are darkened in their understanding, alienated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them, due to their hardness of heart. 19 They have become callous and have given themselves up to sensuality, greedy to practice every kind of impurity. 20 But that is not the way you learned Christ!”

For those that missed verse 20….


So often Christian Men are just “worldly men that go to church on Sundays” and that makes us no different from “the unchanged gentiles” of the world.

Therefore, men, search the scriptures for WHO Christ is and what HE did …and get to KNOW who He is so that you will also know HOW to honor one another and all those that God puts before you, especially the woman you pursue.

This leads to the last part of this post and the great words of how to lead in your relationship:

Matthew 5:37

“Let what you say be simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything more than this comes from evil.”

James 5:12

“But above all, my brothers, do not swear, either by heaven or by earth or by any other oath, but let your “yes” be yes and your “no” be no, so that you may not fall under condemnation”

So I will write this once and be as clear as possible:

Men, scripture says that we are to lead the woman of God that we pursue, NOT that we are to lead them on!

There is a HUGE difference between leading someone and leading someone on.

Both Matthew and James say to be clear and truthful with your language. If you are pursuing someone, then both your words and actions must line up, otherwise it is evil and will bring condemnation on you…and you’ll have no one to blame but yourself.

If you are not pursuing someone, then again…let your “no be no”…in that way you also spare yourself from condemnation and evil actions.

This holds true for ALL things. If you serve God, then do so in word AND deed (1 John 3:18).

Follow Christ’s example by leading in love, leading in the Word, and becoming leaders in honor and righteousness (right-standing with God).

[Real Men of God lead by following Christ’s example]


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