Salvation Through A Marriage Proposal


“Once Saved Always Saved”

This phrase has been a topic of Christian debate for many years, causing questions like Can you lose your salvation?” or “If you can’t lose your salvation…does that mean you can do what you want now?”

What is interesting is that all these questions have long been answered in scripture and the story of Jesus. The problem is that people are asking the wrong questions. It is not whether you can lose salvation or whether you keep it [here on earth] but when does salvation occur?

The word “Salvation” (The name of Jesus) translates as “saved from the final/spiritual death.” So according to our human timeline: this “event” hasn’t happened yet. It literally/actually occurs when Christ returns and judgment is passed. Those that He has sealed will be saved from the lake of fire.

Another way to put it is this:

While on earth we are “engaged” and we look forward to salvation (for who hopes for what they already have? Romans 8:24-25) on Jesus’ wedding day. So just like any engaged person, as Christians it is our delight and joy to invite everyone to the coming wedding and tell the world how we [all] were proposed to by Jesus Christ.

In the Ancient (and even modern) Jewish tradition, when a man and woman are engaged to be married, gifts are given to the bride as a promise to her. The man then spends the better part of a year either building a home or an additional room on his father’s house. The woman (in the mean time) lights a candle at night so that her betrothed can find her ready and waiting when He returns. The man then returns to get his bride once his father says that the house/room is complete and the two join in marriage. How fitting that Christ would use this example to teach us how to wait for Him.

The Courtship (Leaving the Father’s house)

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall become united and cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh (Genesis 2:24/Matthew 19:5/Ephesians 5:31)

But [Jesus]stripped Himself [of all privileges and rightful dignity], so as to assume the guise of a servant (slave), in that He became like men and was born a human being.(Philippians 2:7)

The Proposal

But you shall go to my father’s house and to my family and take a wife for my son. And I said to my master, But suppose the woman will not follow me. And he said to me, The Lord, in Whose presence I walk [habitually], will send His Angel with you and prosper your way, and you will take a wife for my son from my kindred and from my father’s house. (Genesis 24:38-40)

And they stripped off His clothes and put a scarlet robe (garment of dignity and office worn by Roman officers of rank) upon Him, And, weaving a crown of thorns, they put it on His head and put a reed (staff) in His right hand. And kneeling before Him, they made sport of Him, saying, Hail (greetings, good health to You, long life to You), King of the Jews! And they spat on Him, and took the reed (staff) and struck Him on the head. And when they finished making sport of Him, they stripped Him of the robe and put His own garments on Him and led Him away to be crucified. (Matthew 27:28-31)

And Jesus, crying out with a loud voice, said, Father, into Your hands I commit My spirit! And with these words, He expired.(Luke 23:46)

The Engagement Gifts

“Today, kiddushin  (sanctification or dedication, also called erusin, betrothal in Hebrew) occurs when the groom gives the bride a ring or other object of value with the intent of creating a marriage.” 

The man stood gazing at her in silence, waiting to know if the Lord had made his trip prosperous. And when the camels had finished drinking, the man took a gold earring or nose ring of half a shekel in weight, and for her hands two bracelets of ten shekels in weight in gold,(Genesis 24:21-22)

 And I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Comforter (Counselor, Helper, Intercessor, Advocate, Strengthener, and Standby), that He may remain with you forever—(John 14:16)

Now there are distinctive varieties and distributions of endowments (gifts, extraordinary powers distinguishing certain Christians, due to the power of divine grace operating in their souls by the Holy Spirit) and they vary, but the [Holy] Spirit remains the same. (1 Corinthians 12:4)

The Wedding Preparations

Then the kingdom of heaven shall be likened to ten virgins who took their lamps and went to meet the bridegroom. But at midnight there was a shout, Behold, the bridegroom! Go out to meet him! Then all those virgins got up and put their own lamps in order. And the foolish said to the wise, Give us some of your oil, for our lamps are going out. But the wise replied, There will not be enough for us and for you; go instead to the dealers and buy for yourselves.  (Matthew 25:1,6-9)

 You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do men light a lamp and put it under a peck measure, but on a lamp stand, and it gives light to all in the house. Let your light so shine before men that they may see your moral excellence and your praiseworthy, noble, and good deeds and recognize and honor and praise and glorify your Father Who is in heaven. (Matthew 5:14-16)

Do not let your hearts be troubled (distressed, agitated). You believe in and adhere to and trust in and rely on God; believe in and adhere to and trust in and rely also on Me. In My Father’s house there are many dwelling places (homes). If it were not so, I would have told you; for I am going away to prepare a place for you. And when (if) I go and make ready a place for you, I will come back again and will take you to Myself, that where I am you may be also. (John 14:1-3)

The Wedding Ceremony

But while they were going away to buy, the bridegroom came, and those who were prepared went in with him to the marriage feast; and the door was shut. (Matthew 25:10)

Let us rejoice and shout for joy [exulting and triumphant]! Let us celebrate and ascribe to Him glory and honor, for the marriage of the Lamb [at last] has come, and His bride has prepared herself. She has been permitted to dress in fine (radiant) linen, dazzling and white—for the fine linen is (signifies, represents) the righteousness (the upright, just, and godly living, deeds, and conduct, and right standing with God) of the saints (God’s holy people). Then [the angel] said to me, Write this down: Blessed (happy, to be envied) are those who are summoned (invited, called) to the marriage supper of the Lamb. And he said to me [further], These are the true words (the genuine and exact declarations) of God. (Revelation 19:7-9)

So no, we can’t lose our salvation the moment we are joined to Jesus in Marriage [salvation from the spiritual death/lake of fire]….but we can leave Him at the altar like 5 of the virgins did in Matthew.



The Word of God isn’t a rule book, a fictional account of super heroes, nor is it an unattainable/magical fantasy.

The Word of God is a TRUE Love story about the greatest proposal this world has ever seen.



[Don’t leave Jesus at the altar]

“No one has greater love [no one has shown stronger affection] than to lay down (give up) his own life for his friends.” (John 15:13)


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