high respect; esteem.
regard with great respect.
fulfill (an obligation) or keep (an agreement).
Honor is a word that has been on the shelf of “manhood” for far too long. When people hear the word “honor” today, we expect to see a British sword-fighter from the 1800’s to show up like in Kate and Leopold. The problem is that, most of the world thinks both Honor and Chivalry are dead. Sadly, to some extent, there is truth to this claim.
Scripture gives us a lot of perspective on what it means to honor someone, and in Romans we are painted a pretty full picture in just a few verses.
“[Let your] love be sincere (a real thing); hate what is evil [loathe all ungodliness, turn in horror from wickedness], but hold fast to that which is good.
Love one another with brotherly affection [as members of one family], giving precedence and showing honor to one another.
Never lag in zeal and in earnest endeavor; be aglow and burning with the Spirit, serving the Lord.” (Romans 12:9-11)
Scripture states that we are to give precedence/outdo one another in showing honor. Initially, these verses don’t seem to state how to do so. However, in these three verses, there are several qualifiers for what Honor is rooted in.
Verse 9 tells us that we must have sincere love and hold fast to what is good. Verse 10 then states that with a sincere love [of what is good] we are able to love one another. Another way to put it is that once we have experienced the Love of Christ, we are then able to share it with others. In verse 11 we are instructed to never lag in zeal/earnest endeavors and to burn with the Spirit, serving the Lord.
Honor is rooted in loving and serving the Lord. Without a correct focus on the character of Christ, there is no way for us to begin to understand what it means to honor one another.
Honoring someone doesn’t always mean that we do what makes others happy or what makes others feel superior and upright. It means that we regard one another with great esteem and respect, while we fulfill our privileged obligation to live as Christ would.
Ephesians instructs that husbands are to love their wives and wives are to be submissive/respect/show honor to their husbands out of reverence to Christ. It is because men feel honored and loved when they are respected. Women are wired to be loved and guarded (just like in the garden) and in both cases, honor happens.
When men lead in showing Christ’s love, it perpetuates a similar response from all those around them…especially a spouse.
What wife wouldn’t want to honor and respect a husband who spends every day figuring out new ways to know Christ and more ways to love His partner? So why is it that women settle for a man who can say pretty things but does not have the ability to carry them out? Why is it that men take rejection as an excuse to lower standards? Just because a woman has not seen honor and respect (because of the lack of men) doesn’t mean that we, Men of God, should revert to acting like the world.
Scripture refers to us [males] as children then young men, then men. The expectation is set high. In fact, it is not just set to the standard of Man of God. We are to love the partner Christ gives to us, like He loved the Church. Christ took on EVERYTHING in order to protect His bride. He gave up His infinite and perfect life, so that we might learn to love others as He does.
So, to be culturally relevant:
If you want to bring “sexy” back, bring Honor back.
Real Men of God, love Christ, seek Him with everything, and they find new ways to love and Honor the women God has placed in their lives.
“More today than yesterday. More tomorrow than today” -Voddie Baucham
[Real Men of God show Honor]