Culture confines beauty to the physical appearance and attractiveness of a person based on what the media has deemed it to be. Though men do struggle with physical attractiveness, it is much more of a difficulty for women. Men are creatures of the mind and therefore one of the biggest sins we commit is lusting with our eyes. This means we depict beauty and worth by what we see on the outside, rather than what we see inside someone’s heart.
God has spoken as to what beauty really is through His apostle Peter. He states:
In like manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them, and adapt yourselves to them], so that even if any do not obey the Word [of God], they may be won over not by discussion but by the [godly] lives of their wives,
When they observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your reverence [for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him—to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband].
Let not yours be the [merely] external adorning with [elaborate] interweaving and knotting of the hair, the wearing of jewelry, or changes of clothes;
But let it be the inward adorning and beauty of the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, which [is not anxious or wrought up, but] is very precious in the sight of God. –1 Peter 3:1-4 AMP
A beautiful woman, is one who is not “just” adorned on the outside but one who has a beautiful, incorruptible, gentle and peaceful heart, that is precious to the Lord. SHE is worth far more than rubies, i.e. she is priceless in the eyes of God (Proverbs 31).
Think about this…the God of the universe who owns everything and needs nothing, finds this “precious” or of great value. We cannot even begin to measure the value of God and we simply say that He has the name above all names and He is limitless in glory, honor, and the praise due to Him.
That being so…if HE says that a woman who loves Him or a man who loves Him is priceless, how much more should WE remember that?
So many suffer through unworthiness and being treated as if they were nothing but a fleshly fulfillment to an earthly desire. BUT THE LORD SAID, that those that love Him and belong to Him are worth HIS PERFECT AND HOLY LIFE.
How dare we treat one another with any less honor or respect than what was paid for by Christ. A clay pot or jar can be elegant and beautiful but without the light of Christ radiating from it, then it is just destined to decay, crack, break and be destroyed.
It is Jesus, and the light that comes from knowing Him that makes His church and His bride beautiful. Charm and physical beauty fade, but a woman who fears the lord is to be praised (Ref: Proverbs 31:30)
We do well to remember that the most intimate and yet most beautiful part of who we are is Christ’s love for us and our response to it. A woman who waits on Christ, loves Him and relies on Him for everything, is beautiful. A man who recognizes this beauty and dedicates his life to protecting it and is willing to lay down His life for it (as Jesus did for His bride) is one who recognizes true beauty.
Do not be conformed to this world (this age), [fashioned after and adapted to its external, superficial customs], but be transformed (changed) by the [entire] renewal of your mind [by its new ideals and its new attitude], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God, even the thing which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His sight for you]. –Romans 12:2 AMP
Change your mind about what is beautiful according to this world, and fix it on what God finds beautiful.
The Light makes and enhances the beauty of the clay. Find beauty in what Jesus has done. Bring that light to others who feel they are just dirt, so that they might know they are no longer dead but beautifully alive.